D.O.P.E Boy Of The Week : Tolani Im Liciouz

C.E.O Liciouz Clothing showing off one of his amazing pieces

Here's the first D.O.P.E boy on here...
Introducing world famous Longe Tolani Afeez a.k.a Tolani, a.k.a Liciouz a.k.a Youngest Billionaire(haters gon hate..lol) a.k.a Madding Nigga.
He's a Computer Science graduate from the famous Igbinedion University. A vibrant chap who's got an eye for where the money is. Tolani is the C.E.O "Im Liciouz" clothing.
His hobbies include listening to dope songs, travelling, cooking (yea, its shocking I know right) , meeting people and fashion(looking DOPE is his major hobby).
Follow him on Twitter and Instagram @im_liciouz

Its his birthday... please show him some real love. #TurnUpForTolani
See more of his picture below...

'til another day....*God Loves Me*

Looking DOPE is his hobby

Tolani was taken to the cleaners by yours truly...Aha

Chap with an eye for where the money at.

Tolani brainstorming on the next best thing...As a BOSS!

Check out the previous D.O.P.E chic HERE

D.O.P.E Chic of the day : Sandeeva

Her name is Cassandra Ebomuche a.k.a Sandeeva. She's a 400 Level Mass Communications student at the university of FIRST choice...UNILAG and hails from Imo state (state of winches). Her hobbies includes listening to good music, dancing, watching action movies and yea, messing with people's minds. She's also a very good writer, a video vixen and one model y'all need to be on the look out for. She's D.O.P.E like that. *winks*
Fun facts about Sandeeva: She loves working with her hands (massage and think whatever you want please :p )

You can follow Sandeeva on Twitter: @Ms_Sandeeva10, and chat on Skype: Sandeeva10

It's her birthday today so please show her some birthday love...as always.

See more photos of Sandeeva...

D.O.P.E Chic of the day: LAMI

Jennifer looking all gorgeous

Here's introducing our 1st D.O.P.E Chic on Dayo's Diary ...
Her name is Jennifer Chris a.k.a LAMI. A Mass Communications graduate from Nigeria's premiere private university Igbinedion University, Okada. She's from Edo State, hence the beauty plus brains. Her hobbies? She doesn't have one. (weirdo) She's a shoe freak and her dream holiday is in Paris...(guys take note)
Jennifer is an Entrepreneur. She's the C.E.O of LAMI Clothing(Google is your friend).

First time I met Jennifer: You really don't wanna know... I mean, I WAS STARING!!!

Today is her birthday so y'all show her some birthday love . Follow her on Twitter @janeyjil and on Instagram : JenniferLami

See more pictures of her after the cut...

Queen Jenny

LAMI's Cute smile

Let's do D.O.P.E

What's good beautiful people... its your favorite Naija boy. So I will be bringing new stuffs on here. Hoping you'd like them. Amongst them will be Dayo's On Point and Extraordinary i.e D.O.P.E chics and guys...
I'll be profiling some of the D.O.P.E peeps in Naija and the world over.
STAY TUNED!
    'til another day...*God Loves Me*

Friends WIth Benefits: Simplest Ways To Start

What's up beautiful people. Sorry for the no posts in a while. These after uni days are literally just mean to me. :(
Well, I'm here now...So let's roll!
Got something for some of us. (Some of us being the no-love, no-strings attached, #TeamFuckLove and #TeamSingle)

The ideal friends with benefits relationship will let you have fun and hook up with someone whenever you're both in the mood without getting emotionally invested. Though it can be very tricky to navigate the territory between friendship and courtship, if you follow a few basic rules, you can have a no-strings-attached relationship where no one gets hurt. If you want to know how to start one, just be cool and follow these steps.

1. Pick someone who is AVAILABLE.
This means "available" in all senses of the word -- single being the most obvious definition.
The person should not only be single, but he or she shouldn't be recovering from the end of a devastating break-up, dealing with the loss of a loved one, or so busy studying that he or she practically lives in the library. This person should be feeling fun, emotionally stable, and up for anything -- especially hooking up with you.

2.Pick someone who won't get too attached.
Friends with benefits relationships often end because one person starts falling for the other.
So, unless you want to date the person, or you don't care if the person gets really hurt, you should avoid someone who will get attached. How do you know who will get too attached and who won't? Well, you can't figure this out with 100% certainly, but there are a few clues that the person may get too attached:
*If you've heard this person described as
"clingy," (Ewww) whether it's by friends or past significant others, then you may have a problem.
*If the person doesn't have a lot of friends,
interests, or a lot going on, then he or she may have nothing better to do than to spend a lot of time with you.
*If you know that this person has really liked you in the past, then it's better to avoid it.
If you know the person has a harmless crush on you, then that's PERFECT. ;)

3. Pick someone you already like.
Key word --like,not really really like. This should be someone who you think is cute and fun to be around -- you should like this person just as much as you like spending a day at the beach with your friends. If you're going to spend a lot of time with that person, then you should feel a baseline of affection -- just nothing too serious.
*Pick someone you already like, but not someone you would normally date. Go out of your comfort zone and remember that you're looking for a hot hook up partner, not your future husband or wife. If you pick someone you might date, then it's more likely that you'd end up falling for that person.
*You should have some natural chemistry with this person. That doesn't mean you want to stay up for hours talking about the meaning of life with him -- you just want to rip his shirt off.

4. Pick someone outside your social or work circle. Don't have a friends with benefits relationship with one of the members of the group of friends you've known since you were five, or it'll lead to some serious awkwardness when the relationship ends. Typical friends with benefits relationships only last a few months, so don't pick someone you know you'll have to see all the time.

5. Pick someone with experience.
You should try to find someone who you know has had some experience hooking up -- even better if you've heard he or she is great in bed. Since that's what you'll be doing, it's good to have a sense that the person will deliver. It will also help if the person has had some casual flings before, so he or she is experienced in that department. If the person has only had one relationship and it lasted seven years, he may not be your best bet.

Start the Relationship

1. Flirt with the person.
Start flirting with the person by teasing,
playfully touching, or just paying attention to him or her. Let the person know you're interested and give him or her a few not-so-subtle complements. Don't forget!
You're not trying to be coy here -- you're looking for a hook-up buddy.

2.Start hooking up.
Once the person is interested, you can start
kissing or doing something more. Tell the person how attracted you are to him or her but do not complement that person's personality or say anything that makes it sound like you want to date.

3. Set the ground rules.
Every non-couple is different. Some friends with benefits know each other well enough to set some ground rules before they start hooking up. But that can feel a little awkward and unnatural, so you may want to wait until after that first kiss or hook-up session. Ideally, you should have the talk before sex, so you know that both people are on the same page and that no one gets really hurt.

Here are the things you should talk about:

*Make it clear that you are not dating -- you're just having fun. Both of you should be free to hook up with other people.
*Make sure that you won't see each other too often. You should see each other just two or three times a week, preferably at night. If you see each other almost every day, Mbok... guess what? That's dating. >_>
*Decide that you'll end the relationship when one person gets too attached. Unless you both start falling for each other, make it clear that if someone gets attached, it's over.

4. Enjoy some HOT sex.
That's what having friends with benefits is for, isn't it? Have fun hooking up with your "friend," letting loose, and trying the things you were too afraid to try with your old boyfriend or girlfriend. This is your time to let loose and experiment, picking up the tricks you can use to wow future partners. Have fun trying new poses, having sex in kinky locations, and just throwing
caution to the wind.

5. Keep up your communication.
As you ease in to your friends with benefits
relationship, don't forget to check in with the person you're hooking up with. Make sure you're both into each other, but not too much. If you'll both be at a party, talk about how you'll act. If you're also hooking up with another person, don't be shady about it. You don't have to spill your heart out, but you should keep talking so you know what's working and what isn't.

Keep Enjoying the Benefits

1. Don't forget to see other people.
Part of a no-strings-attached relationship means that you are free to see other people. Don't forget this important perk. If you're only hooking up with one person, it may turn into a real relationship. If that's not what you want, then keep a look out whenever you're out at a bar or a party. Don't just wait to get a text from your hook up buddy, but look around and see if there are any other options for you.

2. Keep it casual.
You can hang out with your friend with benefits, but you need to make it clear that it's not a date. For one thing, you should spend more time in bed together than out of it. You can go out for a drink -- but not for dinner. Try to make your
place as inhospitable as possible so your hook up buddy doesn't want to linger in the morning.

NOTE: I am NOT asking anyone to go sleeping around or be promiscuous. If you don't feel the need to be in a serious relationship for reasons best known to you, FWB isn't all that bad. Just play safe...Use a CONDOM!

So what do you think?

Feel free to drop your comments below.
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'til another day...*God Loves Me*

Time Management Skill

"Success is a daily habit"

Time management skill - introduction

What have you done today to move you closer to your dreams? Are you expecting to wake up one morning and suddenly do everything to achieve your dream in just that one day?

Aristotle said, “We are what we repeatedly do.” Success is a daily habit. It’s the little things you do everyday that will get you to your destination.


Time management skill - put first things first

Stephen Covey, in his inspiring and life changing book “the 7 habits of highly effective people” asks the question: “what one thing could you do (you are not doing now) that if you did on a regular basis, would make a tremendous positive difference in your personal life?”

It does not have to be a huge thing. Neither does it have to be something that requires a huge investment of time, energy or resources on your part. It just has to be something that you can do consistently.

You will discover that you will eventually be doing more of that one thing than you could have thought possible when you started. Over time, it will make a huge difference. Stephen Covey further adds that “it’s usually not the dramatic, the visible, the once-in-a-lifetime, up-by-the-bootstraps effort that brings enduring success. Empowerment comes from learning how to use this great endowment in the decisions we make everyday.”

He called this habit “putting first things first.” I like that name because often we do not put first things first. We put things which matter most at the mercy of things which matter least.

We subordinate our dreams for our jobs, our bosses, our friends, our parents and a whole lot of other people and activities. We should instead place our hopes and dreams as the most important thing everyday.

Time management skill - the time management matrix

One guide that will help you decide whether something should take up your time or not is the time management matrix. In this matrix, which may be drawn as a quadrant, there are basically four groups of activities. There are those things that are urgent and not important; those that are urgent and important; those that are not urgent and not important and those that are not urgent and important.

Most people spend their time doing things that are neither urgent nor important. One thing that immediately comes to mind is the person that spends every bit of his free time at the bar hanging out with the guys and just having a good time. I would not be very mistaken to say that such a person is not only drinking their income away, but also their dreams.

Television is another not urgent and not important activity which, unfortunately, most of us spend a lot of our most productive time on. It is amazing how television sets in most homes are perpetually on and people are fixed on them like zombies, watching everything that is dished out to them! TVs have invaded our lives and crippled our dreams.

Time management skill - do the important things

What we need to do is concentrate on the things that are most important. The hard part is that these are usually the things that are not urgent. Yet they are things that will make the biggest difference to our lives.

Why not turn off the television set tonight and read an inspiring book? Why not take a quiet moment to sit down and write down what you want to do with the rest of your life? Why not spend some time with your kids rather than with the guys at the bar? Why not take a few minutes to read the Bible or Quran today?

Time management skill - it ain't always fun

As you can see, the important things are usually not the most fun or exciting things to do. However, they must be done. There is a price to be paid for attaining greatness and at times that means doing things we don’t necessarily enjoy or want to do.

But you must do those things because you realize that your future depends on it. Think about this: if you only had to do the things that are fun and exciting at work would you get anything done? No. But you do it anyway, for the sake of that paycheck at the month-end. Why then, won’t you do the things that matter most for your own life?

Time management skill - conclusion

If you have not done anything today to get you closer to your dreams you are not a dreamer, you are a wisher. Wake up and do something about it or watch the dreamers take hold of their dreams, one little step each day.

In the words of Jim Rohn, “Motivation is what gets you started. Habits is what keeps you going,” Develop the habit of putting first things first today. Work on your dreams each and every day.

You are all you can be. Go on and be it!
....'til another day! *God Loves Me*

Invest In Yourself

Invest in yourself – introduction

Are you busy looking for success everywhere except the one place you can truly find it? Does life seem like a futile chasing after the rainbow?

One possible reason for this could be that you are not looking for success in the right place. It is not in the environment around us or the circumstances we face that we find success, but in ourselves.

The simple fact is that if you are successful within, in your mind, you will be successful on the outside as well. It may seem too simple thing, but it is something we often forget when the pressures of life surround and overwhelm us. When it comes to making everyday choices it usually does not occur to us.

Like I have said before, your mind is your greatest asset. Like any asset, it needs to be built up and improved continually. Abraham Lincoln said he didn't “think much of a man who is not wiser today than he was yesterday.” He realized the basic truth that continuous improvement is necessary if one is to be truly successful.

Invest in yourself – knowledge is a huge asset

Knowledge is a powerful asset. It makes the difference between living in abundance and living in lack. The only difference between the managing director in a company and the maid in the same company is their knowledge. The MD knows something the maid doesn't. That is why he earns a hundred times more than she does.

It is what you know that will bring you success. It’s what you don’t know that will cause you to fail. Why then, do some get it so wrong? For example many people look for promotions without acquiring the necessary skills and knowledge they need to be promoted. Many business people are struggling because they just won’t take the time to learn about accounting, marketing and all that goes with doing business. That’s like trying to drive a car without first putting in the fuel.


Invest in yourself – the three percent rule

“Here is a rule that will guarantee your success – and possibly make you rich: Invest 3 percent of your income back into yourself.” That’s great advice from Brian Tracy. Investing in yourself can double or triple your income. It will work for you whether you are employed or in business.

James Attucher of the Financial Times agrees with this advice when he says “The only real way I know to triple your money is to invest in yourself.” He goes on to say that you should invest in your own ideas and your own business. But apart from that you should also invest in your mind.

Invest in yourself – ways to invest in you

There are many ways to invest in yourself. One way is to make it a habit to buy books regularly. Not just any books, of-course, but books that will challenge you and from which you can learn something. Biographies of other successful people, “how-to” books, self-improvement books and professional books such as accounting or public speaking books are examples.

Investing your time and money in learning things such as goal-setting, how to manage your time, how to be more confident and less doubtful, how to be a better speaker, how to adjust your thinking, create new habits and squash bad ones, how to take care of your health, how to focus and so can greatly improve your results in life.

These days books are not the only way to get knowledge, though. We have video, the internet, seminars and workshops on various subjects and even mentoring and coaching programmes. Even watching the right movies can sometimes teach you a thing or two. My favorite business programme, for example, is The Apprentice. It teaches a lot about entrepreneurship in an entertaining manner. Who would have thought that reality T.V could be so educational?

Invest in yourself – the value of self-education

The point is that you determine how and what you learn as well as how fast you learn. Self-education is important beyond the classroom. In the real world self-education matters a whole lot more than formal education. There are plenty of people with a formal education that are still struggling. Isaac Asimov fully supported this in saying that “Self-education is, I firmly believe, the only kind of education there is.” A formal education is good, but only as a foundation. The sad part is that many are stuck at the foundation level. They don’t realize that in order to complete the building they need to invest in some self-education.

Therefore, do not be like them, who were referred to by James Allen as being “anxious to improve their own lives, but are unwilling to improve themselves. They therefore remain bound.” Dreamers realize that there is no better way to improve your life than to improve your mind. The biggest room in the world is the room for improvement.

Knowledge, then, is a powerful asset, and one which you should always be seeking to improve and build upon in the pursuit of your dreams. The Proverbs declare that “through wisdom is an house built; and by understanding it is established: And by knowledge shall the chambers be filled with all precious and pleasant riches.”

Invest in yourself – conclusion

Become addicted to continuous improvement and increase in your knowledge consistently and constantly. With time, you will inevitably become the person that you desire to be. Then you will no longer have to chase after success. Success will follow you. Your mind will become magnetized to attract success.

You are all you can be. Go on and be it.

.....'til another day. *God Loves Me*