Glad to be back after the short break. So many things have been going on in your favorite Naija boy's life. To God be the glory.
Something happened to me on the 23rd of January and this might be written in my biography some day. I'd want to keep my fingers crossed God willing it comes to light. All in all, I'd like to say NEVER say never. NEVER doubt yourself and dreams DO come true.
As always, God bless you and yours and may your dreams come true.
P.S: I won't be long gone
What's good beautiful people... its your favorite Naija boy. So I will be bringing new stuffs on here. Hoping you'd like them. Amongst them will be Dayo's On Point and Extraordinary i.e D.O.P.E chics and guys...
I'll be profiling some of the D.O.P.E peeps in Naija and the world over.
STAY TUNED!
'til another day...*God Loves Me*
What's up beautiful people. Sorry for the no posts in a while. These after uni days are literally just mean to me. :(
Well, I'm here now...So let's roll!
Got something for some of us. (Some of us being the no-love, no-strings attached, #TeamFuckLove and #TeamSingle)
The ideal friends with benefits relationship will let you have fun and hook up with someone whenever you're both in the mood without getting emotionally invested. Though it can be very tricky to navigate the territory between friendship and courtship, if you follow a few basic rules, you can have a no-strings-attached relationship where no one gets hurt. If you want to know how to start one, just be cool and follow these steps.
1. Pick someone who is AVAILABLE.
This means "available" in all senses of the word -- single being the most obvious definition.
The person should not only be single, but he or she shouldn't be recovering from the end of a devastating break-up, dealing with the loss of a loved one, or so busy studying that he or she practically lives in the library. This person should be feeling fun, emotionally stable, and up for anything -- especially hooking up with you.
2.Pick someone who won't get too attached.
Friends with benefits relationships often end because one person starts falling for the other.
So, unless you want to date the person, or you don't care if the person gets really hurt, you should avoid someone who will get attached. How do you know who will get too attached and who won't? Well, you can't figure this out with 100% certainly, but there are a few clues that the person may get too attached:
*If you've heard this person described as
"clingy," (Ewww) whether it's by friends or past significant others, then you may have a problem.
*If the person doesn't have a lot of friends,
interests, or a lot going on, then he or she may have nothing better to do than to spend a lot of time with you.
*If you know that this person has really liked you in the past, then it's better to avoid it.
If you know the person has a harmless crush on you, then that's PERFECT. ;)
3. Pick someone you already like.
Key word --like,not really really like. This should be someone who you think is cute and fun to be around -- you should like this person just as much as you like spending a day at the beach with your friends. If you're going to spend a lot of time with that person, then you should feel a baseline of affection -- just nothing too serious.
*Pick someone you already like, but not someone you would normally date. Go out of your comfort zone and remember that you're looking for a hot hook up partner, not your future husband or wife. If you pick someone you might date, then it's more likely that you'd end up falling for that person.
*You should have some natural chemistry with this person. That doesn't mean you want to stay up for hours talking about the meaning of life with him -- you just want to rip his shirt off.
4. Pick someone outside your social or work circle. Don't have a friends with benefits relationship with one of the members of the group of friends you've known since you were five, or it'll lead to some serious awkwardness when the relationship ends. Typical friends with benefits relationships only last a few months, so don't pick someone you know you'll have to see all the time.
5. Pick someone with experience.
You should try to find someone who you know has had some experience hooking up -- even better if you've heard he or she is great in bed. Since that's what you'll be doing, it's good to have a sense that the person will deliver. It will also help if the person has had some casual flings before, so he or she is experienced in that department. If the person has only had one relationship and it lasted seven years, he may not be your best bet.
Start the Relationship
1. Flirt with the person.
Start flirting with the person by teasing,
playfully touching, or just paying attention to him or her. Let the person know you're interested and give him or her a few not-so-subtle complements. Don't forget!
You're not trying to be coy here -- you're looking for a hook-up buddy.
2.Start hooking up.
Once the person is interested, you can start
kissing or doing something more. Tell the person how attracted you are to him or her but do not complement that person's personality or say anything that makes it sound like you want to date.
3. Set the ground rules.
Every non-couple is different. Some friends with benefits know each other well enough to set some ground rules before they start hooking up. But that can feel a little awkward and unnatural, so you may want to wait until after that first kiss or hook-up session. Ideally, you should have the talk before sex, so you know that both people are on the same page and that no one gets really hurt.
Here are the things you should talk about:
*Make it clear that you are not dating -- you're just having fun. Both of you should be free to hook up with other people.
*Make sure that you won't see each other too often. You should see each other just two or three times a week, preferably at night. If you see each other almost every day, Mbok... guess what? That's dating. >_>
*Decide that you'll end the relationship when one person gets too attached. Unless you both start falling for each other, make it clear that if someone gets attached, it's over.
4. Enjoy some HOT sex.
That's what having friends with benefits is for, isn't it? Have fun hooking up with your "friend," letting loose, and trying the things you were too afraid to try with your old boyfriend or girlfriend. This is your time to let loose and experiment, picking up the tricks you can use to wow future partners. Have fun trying new poses, having sex in kinky locations, and just throwing
caution to the wind.
5. Keep up your communication.
As you ease in to your friends with benefits
relationship, don't forget to check in with the person you're hooking up with. Make sure you're both into each other, but not too much. If you'll both be at a party, talk about how you'll act. If you're also hooking up with another person, don't be shady about it. You don't have to spill your heart out, but you should keep talking so you know what's working and what isn't.
Keep Enjoying the Benefits
1. Don't forget to see other people.
Part of a no-strings-attached relationship means that you are free to see other people. Don't forget this important perk. If you're only hooking up with one person, it may turn into a real relationship. If that's not what you want, then keep a look out whenever you're out at a bar or a party. Don't just wait to get a text from your hook up buddy, but look around and see if there are any other options for you.
2. Keep it casual.
You can hang out with your friend with benefits, but you need to make it clear that it's not a date. For one thing, you should spend more time in bed together than out of it. You can go out for a drink -- but not for dinner. Try to make your
place as inhospitable as possible so your hook up buddy doesn't want to linger in the morning.
NOTE: I am NOT asking anyone to go sleeping around or be promiscuous. If you don't feel the need to be in a serious relationship for reasons best known to you, FWB isn't all that bad. Just play safe...Use a CONDOM!
So what do you think?
Feel free to drop your comments below.
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'til another day...*God Loves Me*
How are you guys doing? Its been a while...(I know right). Haven't been on my laptop for a while. Reasons best known to the laptop and its crazy self.
I'll be putting up some amazing poems and essays from weird but interesting friends I have. One thing I noticed, we now tend to have more readers of books and essays than we used to. Which is very encouraging if you ask me. I'll like you guys to show your support as usual, feel free to read them and comment. Not forgetting, sharing this blog with your friends only makes it more fun.
Thanks to you guys, I'm getting closer to my dreams. Your calls, messages and tweets are always appreciated. ☺
...'til another day. *God Loves Me*
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Since the end of the 2012/13 season, Arsenal football club of England has been linked with several (if not all) types of players the world has to offer. My question now: Do we have to buy or do we need to buy? Your answer is as good as mine. We NEED to buy. Not just to add up numbers but to most importantly, increase the competition for the red and white Jersey. No player (CR7 and Messi inclusive) has the right to just walk in to every match day squad.
Having lost the chance to sign any "marquee" signing YET, I'd love Arsene and his scouting networks take a look at the following players.
1. Jackson Martinez - Oh boy! What more do I have to say or write to convince you guys on how awesome this Columbian lad is? He ticks virtually every box you require of a CF. He's got quick feet, good turn of shot, great technique and top notch team play. I see him changing clubs soon for a fee of around £25m to £30m.
2. Lars Bender - This is a type of DM most coaches will do anything to have. He breaks up opposition play so well as linking up well with those in front of him. He'd cost around £15m to £20m.
3. Micah Richards - Big, Versatile, Strong, Good Technique and Ability to chip in few vital goals is how best to describe the England international defender. A player of his kind would really go on to be a fans' favorite. He should command a fee of £10m to £15m.
4. Tim Krul - The "left footed" Dutch international keeper was "rumoured" to be one of our targets. Mind you, I'm not being sarcastic but I'm yet to be convinced he is so much of an improvement over the lads we have at the Emirates. Though he is a promising young goalkeeper BUT he is also a suspect when it comes to be being struck down with injuries. A fee of around £12m to £15m should be able to convince Pardew and Newcastle into parting ways with Krul.
5. Juan Mata - Yeah right! I was shocked myself but what can we say? It will be an honour to have this amazing Spanish playmaker work his magic I'm the red and white Jersey. Whether or not he'll do justice to whatever transfer fee (mind you, a reasonable one)... is no question. What should be the question is, will Chelsea ever sell him? I hear a transfer fee of between £25m to £30m should see him jump ship to the Emirates.
That's all folks. Please feel free to post your comments below and I'd be glad to hear from you guys on Twitter @MaybachDAYO
'till another day... *God Loves Me*
Yes oh!!! What's going on beautiful people and Dayo's Diary Faithfuls? I know its been a very long while. Way too many things going on with your favorite Naija boy at the moment but I'm back now so let's get the awesome posts blogging. Haha!!!
PS: Thanks to everyone and anyone who called, sent messages while I was M.I.A.
... Much appreciated! ☺
