Tuesday 3 July 2018

Up to some things.....



Hello beautiful people, it's your favorite Yoruba hommie. First of, apologies for being AWOL. I am proud to say that your boy has grown to be a MAN! I got to meet the love of my life Akanke Mi, we got married and I became a dad since the last time I posted. I will have to admit, I appreciate every one of your calls, texts and emails  to me to know if everything is okay. 


I got married to the most amazing, beautiful and hustlefied lady I love to call "Akanke Mi". I will tell you guys how we met in 2016 and got married less than 52 weeks later even though we had been on and off friends on social media for over four years. 


Akanke Mi and I had been friends on Twitter for over four years but I barely kept in touch as much - I was actually the unserious one chasing after mammy waters upandan while she was in one corner building her empire SUNMOLA. Boy met girl, we clicked from the word hello and knew from day one we was the ONE.


Sahara's finest!



Together we had an amazingly handsome, happy soul we call "Rayan". Rayan has been the BEST thing ever to happen to me after his mum said "Yes I do Oko Mi, I wanna be with you forever."  Life has been so beautiful being a husband and father I tell you, no doubt with her fair share of challenges but with these two, I feel like I am KING.

Let me not bore y'all as I feel rusty from up there. Hope to get my mojo back and soon again. 


P.S: Rayan's godfather Dr Dre got married July 1st 2018 so here is me wishing Dr and Mrs Dre an amazingly wonderful by His grace.


I look forward to reading and replying ALL your comments. May God bless you and yours.





        *God Loves Me*


Saturday 25 June 2016

7 Keys to Long-Term Relationship Success : Dayo's 7 keys to making your love last.

Happy Couple.
Source: Google Images
Most of us want to meet and settle down with the “right” person, and most of us want such a relationship to last. Yet about 41% of marriages in Nigeria, 53% in the U.S., 48% in Canada, 47% in the U.K., and 43% in Australia end in divorce. What are some of the most important ideas when it comes to making your love last? Below are my seven keys to long-term relationship success.



1. Do You Trust Your Partner?

Trust is the first and perhaps most important predictor of long-term relational success. Without trust, none of the other six keys that follow will have much meaning. Ask yourself the following questions: In general, is your partner reliable and dependable? Can you count on your partner as the “rock” in your life? What about you for your partner?

For some, as I've heard from girls I dated in the past, trust is a complicated matter. Some people trust blindly, while others have trust issues. Evaluate your partner’s trustworthiness based not upon unproven promises or wishful thinking, but on a strong overall record of dependability.
Different people have different areas of concern, but almost everyone values trust and honesty from their partner above all. Why? Because your partner is the one person you want to be able to depend upon in the long-term, without question or doubt.

Little things where your significant other hasn’t been completely honest shouldn’t be blown out of proportion, because virtually everybody tells little white lies (especially when one is dating). Focus instead on the big things, like if they say they’re a lawyer and you discover they’ve never even passed the bar, or they say they like kids but later on insist on never having one.


2. Are You and Your Partner Compatible in the Dimensions of Intimacy?

Authors Ronald Adler and Russell Proctor II identified four ways with which we can feel closely connected with our significant other. The four dimensions of intimacy are: Physical, Emotional, Intellectual, and Shared Activities. 
Here’s a quick exercise to check you and your partner's compatibility in intimacy. List the four dimensions as follows:
_______________________________________________________
                                  Partner A    Partner B
Physical
Emotional
Intellectual
Shared Activities
_______________________________________________________

Next to each dimension, rank whether this is a “Must” have, “Should” have, or “Could” have for you in your romantic relationship.
After answering for yourself, next ask your partner to rank, or on your own put down how you think your partner would prioritize. The more “must-must” and “must-should” combinations between you and your partner, the greater the possibility of an intimate relationship. Since relationships are not static, a couple may evolve in the dimensions of intimacy. Understanding one another’s priorities, and connecting in ways that are important to both partners help ensure long-term relational success.


3. What Type of Person Shows Up Within You in this Relationship?

Consider the friends in your life. Do different friends bring out different sides of you? Maybe you’re more reserved with one and more rambunctious with another. Perhaps you’re patient with some and quarrel with others. A friend may trigger your higher or lower tendencies. Just as a friend can elicit a particular side of you, so does your partner. Consider the following questions: Does my better self show up when I’m with my partner? Does my worse self show up when I’m with my partner? Perhaps it’s a combination of both? If so, what situations tend to bring out a particular side of me. Fundamentally, do I like myself in this relationship?
Your honest answers to these questions offer important clues to the long-term health and happiness of your relationship.


4. Does Your Partner’s Communication Lift You Up or Bring You Down?

Dr. John Gottman of the University of Washington, a foremost expert on couple studies, concluded after over twenty years of research that the single, best predictor of divorce is when one or both partners show contempt in the relationship.
Contempt, the opposite of respect, is often expressed via negative judgment, criticism, or sarcasm regarding the worth of an individual. In communication studies, this is known as being “tough on the person, soft on the issue.” An effective communicator knows how to separate the person from the issue (or behavior), and be soft on the person and firm on the issue. An ineffective communicator will do the opposite – he or she will literally “get personal” by attacking the person, while minimizing or ignoring the issue.
Ask yourself the following: Does your partner’s communication lift you up, or bring you down? Is your partner’s communication with you “soft on the person, firm on the issue,” or the other way around? What about your communication with your partner? If your relationship suffers from ineffective communication, the good news is that as long as you and your partner are willing, improvements can be learned quickly and put to use immediately. 


5. How do You and Your Partner Deal with Conflict in the Relationship?

Couples with poor conflict resolution skills typically engage in Fight, Flight, or Freeze behaviors. They fight and stay mad, sometimes holding grudges for years. They flight and avoid important issues by sweeping them under the rug. Or, after endless arguments with no resolution in sight, they freeze emotionally and shut down. Someone who freezes in a relationship typically goes through the motions on the outside, but has stopped caring on the inside.
Successful couples have the ability to solve problems and let it go. They focus on taking care of the issue rather than attacking the person. Even when angry, they find ways to be upset and stay close at the same time. Once the matter is resolved, they forgive and forget. Most importantly, successful couples have the ability to learn and grow through their interpersonal difficulties. Like fine wine, their relationship improves with age and gets better over time.


6. How do You and Your Partner Handle External Adversity and Crisis Together?

One of the traits of highly successful and enduring relationships is the partners’ ability to stand together in the face of external challenges. A true test of a relationship is whether two people have each others’ back when times are tough. 
Consider these questions:  Do external adversity and crisis bring you and your partner closer together, or pull you farther apart? In difficult life circumstances, do you and your partner act like adults or children? Can you and your partner share the bad times, or only enjoy the good times? As Adler and Proctor II state, “Companions who have endured physical challenges together… form a bond that can last a lifetime.”


7. Do You Have Compatible Financial Values?

Numerous studies have identified disagreements over finances as one of the top reasons couples seek marital counseling, as well as one of the top reasons for divorce. According to Jeffrey Dew of the National Marriage Project, “Couples who reported disagreeing about finances once a week were over 30 percent more likely to divorce over time than couples who reported disagreeing about finances a few times per month.”

Differences in financial values often appear early in a relationship (most especially in Lagos, Nigeria). For example, who pays for the first date? What about the second date? And the third? Is your partner happy when you give a thoughtful but non-monetary birthday gift, or will he or she feel disappointed because you didn't purchase something? Additional questions to consider include: Is your partner generally happy with what he or she owns, or is there a constant, insatiable desire to always acquire more? Are you and your partner able to solve financial difficulties and differences as a team?
Formulating with your partner a viable financial plan, paying attention to patterns of financial discontent, initiating conversations early to resolve differences, and seeking financial or couples counseling when needed are some of the keys to maintaining financial peace.



In closing, whether you’re single, dating, or in a committed relationship, these seven keys to long-term relationship success may serve as a “check-up” of your relational health and well-being. With self-honesty, openness, and a desire to grow, you can significantly increase the possibility of not only having a wonderful partner in life, but making the love last. To grow old with your life mate, knowing that in each other’s warm embrace you have found Home.

If you’re up for it and follow these tips, you’ll be on a road to having a more successful relationship or marriage. But remember — it takes two to tango. Share these with your significant other or spouse and use it as an opportunity to begin the conversation of your life.

Together Forever.
Source: Google Images

....as someone I know will say, "ALL THE BEST OOO".

Cheers!

Wednesday 22 June 2016

CLIQIT Partners Cross River State To Host Record-Breaking Calabar International Trade Fair

With aim to position Calabar as a major trade hub and revive the Tinapa project, management of Tinapa Business Resort and CLIQIT, a business management/development company that runs an e-commerce platform, have signed a Memorandum of Understanding (MoU) in Tinapa, Calabar in Cross-River State, to introduce a trade fair to the annual Calabar Carnival and Tinapa through a Special Purpose Vehicle (SPV); the Calabar International Trade Fair (CITF).
CLIQIT/CITF CEO Mr. Gerald Konwea and Cross River State Commissioner of Finance/MD Tinapa Mr. Asuquo Ekpenyong at the signing of the MoU in Tinapa, Calabar.
Introducing the trade fair to the Calabar Carnival is expected to increase the Internally Generated Revenue (IGR) of the state up to 5 billion naira, introduce up to 15, 000 jobs and 10, 000 Small and Medium Scale Enterprises (SME’s) and empower people of Cross-River state with skill acquisition and go-to market strategies and ultimately contribute development of the state.
The Cross-River State Commissioner of Finance and Managing Director (MD) of Tinapa, Asuquo Ekpenyong, at the signing of the MoU, said that ‘where Tinapa is today is not the ideal when Tinapa was conceived’.
Mr. Ekpenyong, who has only been on the management of Tinapa for about a month said his team has identified most of the challenges that inhibited the full blossoming of Tinapa and are ready to tackle them.
“We have gone to the blueprints, we have identified those issues that prevented Tinapa from going where it should be and we are trying to tackle those issues with a fully detailed plan”.
“One of the ways we think we can do that is have an international trade fair, something that would be around the period when Cross-River would be at its peak in terms of travellers. That is the week of the Carnival in December”.
“We have chosen that date for obvious reasons in terms of the influx of people and Calabar which should be a major trade hub isn’t where it should be, so, we have partnered with Cliqit. They will be bringing their experience and capacity in driving trade traffic to Tinapa and we will provide the resources”.
The Tinapa MD, who also doubles as the state’s Commissioner of Finance asserted his faith in the success of the project, saying there is no infrastructural platform such as the Tinapa Business Resort in the whole of West Africa.
“This platform; Tinapa Business Resort has the capacity to host a lot of trade and businesses and we are trying to use this opportunity of the CITF to showcase the resources Tinapa has and I believe that come December 2016, we will put on a great show and something that will be worthy of repeat year-on-year”.
Gerald Konwea, founder/CEO of Cliqit, the brain behind the project, described the project as a history making venture which is why the Guinness World Records is involved.
“This is going to be arguably the biggest trade fair in the world. There are though big trade fairs in Germany with up to 7,000 vendors and there are even bigger trade fairs in China. Except the numbers are on Chinese websites, there are no numbers on Google or websites that reflect on Google to suggest otherwise.”
“To achieve this feat, we are partnering with the Guinness World Records to execute publicity internationally and prove the trade record we are trying to achieve.”
“We are partnering Red Media to handle our publicity locally and we hope to host the world as we have begun preliminary discussions with every other body and also on both State and Federal level to help us execute this project because this is a big project”.
According to statistics provided by Cliqit, the project is also expected to increase the IGR of the state significantly from N12.7 billion to N14.9 billion yearly by 2016 – 2019 and an additional N2 – 5 billion from 2020 onwards.
“This project will also provide gainful employment up to 7,000 and 15,000 by 2023. This can be achieved through skill acquisition programs, SME empowerment and support activities and instituting Calabar as a major trade hub in the region by reviving the Tinapa project”.
“Like I said, we are trying to host about 10,000 vendors with let us say at least one person to every vendor, or being modest, about 25,000 people and spectators expected to participate.”
The introduction of the project is coming at a time when there is much talk around the country about patronising made-in-Nigeria goods which Gerald said the trade fair would be hugely promoting.
“We are partnering with the organisers of the Made-in-Aba Trade Fair and we are looking to see a lot of Nigerian creativity in December 2016.”
The trade fair, expected to run from 20-31 December is the medium term plan of the project which the Commissioner further explained:
“We have phased out a plan on what we are doing with Tinapa. There is the short-term, which is the immediate for a period of one to three months, there is the medium-term, which is the trade fair and there is the long-term.
“Tinapa has components, there is the hotel, the shops, the games arcade, the water park and the studio. Each of these components are being reviewed. There are different phases and the trade fair is just a cut of the holistic picture and that picture will be revealed to the general public. It is a work-in-progress.”
In terms of security the commissioner said the present situation in the country doesn’t affect Calabar.
He said: “Calabar is one of the safest cities in Nigeria. We will be partnering with all the security agencies and with services from the Nigerian Police Force all the way to DSS to ensure that we provide the safe and secure environment for the hosting of this trade fair”.
Alongside the trade fair, a one kilometer red carpet will also play host to media bodies from around the world, journalists, celebrities and the government.
Follow @Calabar_ITF on Twitter for updates.
Trust us to keep you updated still!

Tuesday 9 February 2016

Dreams DO come true

Glad to be back after the short break. So many things have been going on in your favorite Naija boy's life. To God be the glory.

Something happened to me on the 23rd of January and this might be written in my biography some day. I'd want to keep my fingers crossed God willing it comes to light. All in all, I'd like to say NEVER say never. NEVER doubt yourself and dreams DO come true.

As always, God bless you and yours and may your dreams come true.

P.S: I won't be long gone 

Wednesday 16 October 2013

Its time to Turn Up for 17 year old Superstar SNIPPSY with "Oh My Baby" feat. ECO

Snipssy
Fast rising Abuja based artist Snippsy formally known as Ndifreke Ikpe Obong from Akwa Ibom State signed under KuddiBoi Music(KBM) at the age of 17. Released his latest single "Oh My Baby" featuring Eco and produced by Gospel on the beat and directed by super talented Patrick Ellis. The song is currently making waves in Abuja, Benin and Lagos.
Follow Snippsy and his team on Twitter @snippsy01 @flyboyeco @kudi_boi
For bookings: snippsyobong@yahoo.com
See his video below:



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Tuesday 15 October 2013

D.O.P.E Boy Of The Week : Tolani Im Liciouz

C.E.O Liciouz Clothing showing off one of his amazing pieces
Here's the first D.O.P.E boy on here...
Introducing world famous Longe Tolani Afeez a.k.a Tolani, a.k.a Liciouz a.k.a Youngest Billionaire(haters gon hate..lol) a.k.a Madding Nigga.
He's a Computer Science graduate from the famous Igbinedion University. A vibrant chap who's got an eye for where the money is. Tolani is the C.E.O "Im Liciouz" clothing.
His hobbies include listening to dope songs, travelling, cooking (yea, its shocking I know right) , meeting people and fashion(looking DOPE is his major hobby).
Follow him on Twitter and Instagram @im_liciouz
Its his birthday... please show him some real love. #TurnUpForTolani
See more of his picture below...
'til another day....*God Loves Me*
Looking DOPE is his hobby
Tolani was taken to the cleaners by yours truly...Aha
Chap with an eye for where the money at.
Tolani brainstorming on the next best thing...As a BOSS!
Check out the previous D.O.P.E chic HERE

Thursday 10 October 2013

D.O.P.E Chic of the day : Sandeeva

Her name is Cassandra Ebomuche a.k.a Sandeeva. She's a 400 Level Mass Communications student at the university of FIRST choice...UNILAG and hails from Imo state (state of winches). Her hobbies includes listening to good music, dancing, watching action movies and yea, messing with people's minds. She's also a very good writer, a video vixen and one model y'all need to be on the look out for. She's D.O.P.E like that. *winks*
Fun facts about Sandeeva: She loves working with her hands (massage and think whatever you want please :p )

You can follow Sandeeva on Twitter: @Ms_Sandeeva10, and chat on Skype: Sandeeva10

It's her birthday today so please show her some birthday love...as always.

See more photos of Sandeeva...